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ADHD Nutrition and Weight Loss/Gain

Weight and past bullying
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As a child I was teased a lot by my older sisters for being awkward. In school my Kindergarten teacher yelled at all of the students. She also locked kids in the closet. Although she was thankfully fired the next year, I started to learn that it was better to be as small and invisible as possible.

Many family members have teased me about my weight, even when I was well within a healthy BMI. On the other hand, a lot of my friends teased me about being too skinny. (While being at the same weight)

I’ve only recently noticed that my obsession with weight loss (and being small enough), had more to do with being “small enough” to be invisible. However, when I start to loose weight and get attention from strangers, especially men, I tend to binge. I feel like it’s the other side of the same coin.

Does anyone else feel trapped like this? I want to find my healthy weight, but I’m afraid of being teased for being overweight or being teased for being skinny.

If so, do you have any suggestions? I want to be healthy, not destructive or obsessive, but it’s hard to figure out a balance.

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The goal is to be healthy and to feel good about yourself. The goal should not be for your weight/appearance to please others.

Individuals with ADHD often struggle with weight issues.

It sounds to me like you could benefit from therapy or counseling on this issue.

Penny
ADDconnect Moderator, Author on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen boy with ADHD, LDs, and autism

Posted by adhdmomma on Aug 22, 2016 at 2:29pm

Hi,

I have had very similar issues to you, being called fat and skinny (as I am tall but have struggled with fluctuating weight).

The only way of eating that has worked for me is low carbohydrate, high fat. It is healthy for you long term, keeps the weight off, and even helps for the ADHD with focus. I intermittently fast too now.

This page covers how I eat now https://www.reddit.com/r/keto/wiki/faq
and my intermittent fasting is just every week or two for a day or two.

Any questions please ask.

grin

Posted by allyboy on Aug 24, 2016 at 8:40am

I’ve been exactly where you have been. In high school I was made fun of for being too thin, even though I couldn’t help it. On the other hand I would binge eat to cope with stress. I finally have a healthy relationship with food by the grace of God. It took a lot of self-searching and getting to the root of the problem. I had an over controlling father that would weigh my mom and I on a weekly basis. In his defense, he has changed dramatically and made amends for this after my parents divorce, but, even though I forgive him, it still didn’t make the issues disappear. The only time I wasn’t ever thin was when I was bulimic, ironically. I gained a TON of weight from that. But I’ve been in recovery from that for about 7 years and my metabolism is back, with a vengeance I might add haha. Currently, I’m 5’8” 115. I eat like a horse. When I exercise, I get a little bit of a butt, but besides that barely any curves. For some reason, when I hit 25 this year, I just decided that I was done being insecure. It’s not worth the energy. I recognized God (I don’t know if you believe in God or not, but my faith is the only thing that has saved me when nothing else could, I’ve been through a lot), well He made me this way for a reason. You just gotta own it. I hardly focus on food anymore Bc I prayed for the “obsession” to go away and it FINALLY did. I understand how hard it is though. Just that battle in your mind is a tough one to fight. I know for me, my ADHD took a beating on my self-esteem, so I was and still can be, suseptable yo body image issues. I know it’s hard, just try not to obsess so much over the weight and ironically, the weight will even out. I used prayer, meditation, exercise, support, therapy, etc. but you gotta do what works for you. Everyone is different. Like I said, I NEVER thought I would have a healthy relationship with food or my body. I’ve been 89 pounds, I’ve been 172 pounds (from the bulimia). Keep your chin up and don’t give up. What other people think of you won’t make you happy for long, it’s only superficial even though it may feel good at first. It’s about how you feel inside, whatever weight you are! i have faith! If you need anything I’m here! Any body image issue you can name, I’ve been through it!! Sorry for the long post, I just have soooooo been there. It gets better! Just don’t give up!

Posted by beccab1290 on Sep 07, 2016 at 9:25am

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