Parents of ADHD Teens and Young Adults
What has worked with your teen who has inattentive ADD?
I am a single adoptive mom of a 17 year old daughter with inattentive ADD and am hoping to find some other parents with helpful ideas on how to motivate her. She was just diagnosed last year as everyone kept telling me she’d grow out of it, or I needed to enforce more consequences. Since diagnosis I have attended numerous online parenting webinars and read books and articles but most are written about younger children and I need things related to teenagers. She doesn’t remember to do things she is responsible for and gets mad when I remind her. She refuses to set tasks in her phone because she “doesn’t like a bunch of stuff on her cellphone”. She will write a note to herself if I push the issue but then will overlook the note so it didn’t do any good. When I have asked her repeatedly to do something that didn’t get done, I will take away her cell phone for a few hours. When I take her cell phone away she acts like a drug addict going through withdrawals, what with all the yelling and anger! I met with a therapist who suggested starting a behavior chart giving points for every positive thing I see and if she has enough points at the end of the week, she earns things like being able to hang out with her friends, being driven someplace, money to do something fun, etc. I’d like to know if anyone else using a behavior or chore chart that has worked with teens. I know my daughter tries oftentimes but other times she says she could care less learning how to help make her life easier. How can you help someone who doesn’t care? Any suggestions that have worked would be greatly appreciated.
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