Parents of ADHD Preteens
What is working for anger issues?
I have a 10 year-old lovely daughter who was diagnosed 3 years ago. She is currently on Kapvay and it is has been working fine. The issue we have is when she gets angry over something she doesn’t want to do (ie turn off the tv, pick up after herself, chores, etc). The other issue is the anger than ensues during a fight with her 12 year old brother.
The anger rises and then things get thrown, she starts yelling, screaming and I get out of dodge. Yesterday she threw a shoe and broke a picture frame. Today, after she and her brother got in a fight, she threw a ball that broke a lamp. Quite honestly, I get scared for her anger issues. When I see the anger rising, I tell her she needs to be calm before speaking to me, then I go in my room and close the door (I’ve been bruised before).
She always comes back remorseful, crying, and sad. She says she just has trouble controlling it - the anger, and the impulsiveness. We’ve tried so many techniques - counting to ten, taking a break, etc etc.. nothing works.
None of these issues are happened in school last year - although I imagine some of this is because she is older and worried what people will think.
Thanks for thoughts/ideas.
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