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Couples With One ADHD Partner
Where to put the line between helping and controlling?
My fiance and I are getting married in July. I want the marriage to flow as fluidly as possible. I knew something was wrong when he moved in. He always called himself “irresponsible, ” and I was the responsible one. He let me do all the planning, and I did because I thought that was what I needed to do. However, it became that I was controlling everything and it inevitably ended up crashing. Then, I let him take control, and within a week the whole system was up in flames. I finally told him that I thought he might have adult ADHD. He sought council and was diagnosed within this month.
My question is, what do I do? I don’t want to control everything, but I don’t want things to go by the wayside or have me do all the chores and things because I don’t want to cause conflict. How do you guys find a balance?