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ADHD in Women

am I just needy?
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I would love to share some of the articles from this website with my family. Many of them are so shockingly true it hurts. I know I have internalized all my life.  I have hid my real self from others and eventually lost myself completely. I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted.  I was afraid all the time.  I felt like I had no foundation to stand and I was falling deeper into this painful hole each moment of my life. It was unbearable.  That was my life from 0-58. June 2014 changed everything.
    I have had a total transformation from the inside out.  So very different to live in my bones now as opposed to before. But know one has asked for information on ADD.  I don’t get it.  I really have hid myself and played at real life so they don’t see the change? They had no idea how painful it was inside or how difficult it was sometimes pretending to function.  Other times making excuses so they wouldn’t see the weakness.  This has been life changing for me.  My children grew up with their pretend mother so perhaps they just don’t see the change.  I feel like I have radically changed, like from a frog into a princess change.  I think I want acknowledgement and to show some interest by reading a few paragraphs about ADD. 
I am not really STUCK on this situation like I would have a few months ago,  but AM I TOO NEEDY?

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Thanks dear Mitzi.  I too, am becoming someone I trust most of all.  I am framing this as part of the journey and nothing is for NOT..smile

Posted by jetergirl on Jul 20, 2014 at 2:51pm

100%—I have the same experience.  It felt so all encompassing for me too and I really wanted everyone to understand what I finally understood about myself.  But no one seemed to care.  It was like I was talking to the wind.  I don’t think any of my family believes in ADHD and I don’t think my friends want to hear about it.  It was really frustrating.  I still feel that way a lot of the time.  But I guess the most important thing is that you understand now and you can do something with it.
Good luck!

Posted by Keri B on Jul 21, 2014 at 2:03pm

They might be just like I was for the first 48 years of my life….totally unfamiliar with ADHD, its effects, and the consequences of living with it.

Until recently, when my now-18-year old daughter was diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD, I knew nothing other than it was a learning problem that some children had…so I was stunned that my daughter was diagnosed in twelfth grade. When I spoke with her psychologist, I was stunned to learn that some people are not diagnosed until adulthood.

I’m learning now, and I’m more than a little amazed at how widespread it is and how people live with it for years.

But, I just never knew.

Posted by Late2TheGame on Jul 22, 2014 at 6:52am

I know exactly what you mean. A group like this is probably the best place to share your revelations and get that support.

Especially if friends, family and colleagues have always seen us as capable, strong women, they may not be interested in hearing the details of what may sound like a self-indulgent foray into our secretive inner lives filled with confusion and doubt. Maybe they just don’t buy it.

Share those feelings here with people who understand.

Posted by Beesknees on Jul 22, 2014 at 3:45pm

Love this site.  Sending Happiness to all.

Posted by jetergirl on Jul 24, 2014 at 10:59pm

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