I would ask for more detail in what “not minding” means to the teacher. I am a preschool teacher ( and mother of 3 very challenging boys!)and many 5 year olds do not mind at times. What kind of program does your child attend? Is is a play based or academic setting?I would ask to have a sit down meeting with the teacher and program director for a better understanding of what is going on and how all of you can work together to help your daughter. I am sure that some behaviors are learned from the older sibiling…I have the same problem at my house. I wouldn’t be quick to jump to adhd until you do some further looking into the issue. Good Luck!

By not minding, she means she won’t stop talking when asked to. Won’t use her inside voice. Then most recently when when the teacher asks her not to do something she does it anyway, like yesterday, they have deep set windows and dd was sitting in the window looking out and she refused to get up. The day before that it was running, she would rather run, talk loud, and talk fast than to walk, talk low or not talk at all.

I’m a full time college student and she talks so much and so loudly that I can’t do any schoolwork when she’s at home. I’m trying the marble jar reward system but she doesn’t seem to care if she gets her marbles every day or not.

Rewards never worked for my kids either! I am a student too and I totally understand not being able to do schoolwork at home…my boys never stop! I usually end up doing it after bedtime or using the t.v. as a babysitter! Is this something she does all the time? Maybe her punishments need to be more severe…it that sense I mean like if she has a bad day at school she has to go to her room w/ no tv or toys for the night ( its hard for mom too! I so know) My boys dont respond well to reward systems or timeouts ..they do not like having tv taken away and hate being alone in their rooms! I would let the teacher know that you are trying to work on the problem and if she has any suggestions to offer you some….teachers are usually more understanding if they know you are trying and have the same problems too…kids sure can wear you out! Maybe see if you can have her evaluated for adhd .

It depends on what they mean by “not minding.” If the teacher means that he/she has to tell your daughter more than twice to do something before she complies, I would say that is definitely an ADHD symptom. But not minding isn’t specific enough to know. I would start by talking to your daughter’s teacher to find out exactly when is meant by “not minding.” Then, I would take everything to your doctor to see what he/she thinks.

The teacher said she has to repeat herself 4 to 5 times to get her to stop doing whatever it is she’s doing. She’s acting the same at home as she is at school. I just spoke to the psychologist that tested my son and he doesn’t take our insurance anymore but he said that it’s definitely very possible from what I’m saying that she has. He has referred me to a behavioral pediatrician that does take our insurance. Hopefully she can see us pretty quickly.

My ADHD son is now almost 12.  We have always had a different experience in every grade that he has been in, depending on the teacher…

His preschool teacher did not know how to deal with my son at all (at the time we did not know he was ADHD).  She asked ME how to deal with him as he didn’t care about consequences, couldn’t sit still, and was disrupting her class..She had no interest in trying to help him.  We changed preschools…
He had no problem at the next preschool, the teacher was fabulous. 
You might want to consider this.  The teacher makes a big difference.
As far as your preschooler acting like your older child.. she may just be exhibiting behavior she has learned from your older child.  (Not to mention preschoolers normally have some ADHD behaviors at that development age) I am experiencing the same thing as I have three other children two of which are preschool age and think it is good to act like their older brother.
The teacher needs to accomadate your child not the other way around.
Ive been there, done that, still going through it.  One thing I was told is don’t ever apologise for your child and their behavior (I was constantly doing that).  Be their advocate.  The teacher needs to change her methods.  I could tell you many stories through the grade school years about my son and his teachers.
Good luck!

Unfortunately where I live we only have 1 preschool and 1 preschool teacher:( I live in a very remote/rural area. I did warn her at the beginning of the year that my dd was exhibiting signs of ADHD and I told her to keep an eye on it.

I wrote her a note today to let her know that I do realize dd is having problems and that I am really working on it. I also mentioined again that my oldest has ADHD and that the pediatrician feels my DD may have it also.
My husband has it so the pedi said being that my husband and son have it that it increases the odds that my dd will also have it. He is basing his opinion that she may have ADHD off that fact and her behavior.

After speaking with my pediatrician’s office, we have an appt on Wednesday with a child psychologist. Wish me luck please!