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Parents of ADHD Preteens

daughter shocks!! how to help.

Today has been very shocking! We were at my grandmas house and my 11 year old just out of the blue asks me if she can be a lesbian.WOW! was not expecting that. I told her that if that is what she wanted i would be there. But i told her right now she really doesnt have to worry about dating a girl or boy.

So then we were talking about haircuts and she said she wanted to get her haircut.took her to get it done. i knew she wanted short and i am ok with it. Her sister was telling her that she looked like a boy and I told her to be nice and my daughter said thats ok mom I like it. I have never seen her so happy and have so much self esteem it was crazy. I guess she has always really felt like she was a boy and has never said anything.

I don’t have any problems with it just really shocked.
Is this a phase? how to deal as a parent???


Is there a chance she just wants to be different from her sister? 
As for the transgender issue, of her wanting to be a boy, our friends son asked why he was in a boys body when he was 4.  I believe kids who are transgender realize it at a young age.  Younger than 11.

Posted by use2be on Jun 30, 2014 at 5:52pm

I don’t know if she’s transgendered mabie she’s just “butch”. I have a friend that is just “butch”. Even with long hair she looks like a “boy”.  And at 11 she’s starting to go through pubirty so even if she is “to young to date” that doesn’t stop her homones chagning and having crushes her friends are proboley having crushes on boys and mabie she is relizeing that she is not.  Or mabie it’s “just a faise”

Posted by ICANchange on Jul 01, 2014 at 7:50am

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