Parents of ADHD Children
difficult ex and his partner
My ex is a “when he can be bothered” kind of dad.
He chose not to be involved in the diagnosis process for our son. He wasnt involved in school issues or social/emotional issues prior to or son being on meds.( lowest dosage you can get)
My problem is they didnt have to see or deal with my son when he was on the verge of depression at age 5/6 due to his adhd affecting everything. I tried diets, exercises, fish oils etc to try tame the adhd. Meds waa my final straw, and it wasnt to make my life easier. It was to try and save my son from the very dark place he was in.
My ex and his partner tell my son, on the rare occasion they have hom, that he doesn’t need his meds, that its going to cause him issues when hes older etc. They even went as far as refusing to give him his meds for a week, then telling me they lost them.
My exs partner believes she knows best because she has add. The thing that is getting to me is that
A. They dont do any parenting
B. They didnt deal with the issues prior to meds
C. They chose not to be involved in the process.
How do I deal with them undermining me as a parent, and how am I meant to get through to them the importance to his mental and emotional well being by taking his meds. He is only on one pill once a day and he decides on weekends wether or not he feels he needs to take his meds. The ex and partner have the mentality that he simply needa to be kept occupied and everything wil be fine.
Im at my whits end, my partner and I have done all the hard work, all the sleepless nights, all the meetings and phone calls from the school and all the holding of this boy when he would cry all day and night because he no one would play or talk to him.
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