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do people tell you you talk too much?????

here is my topic: people tell me sometimes i talk too much, that i need to know when to limit my talking. i know being really talky is part of ADHD ( i’m also really “typey” today, LOL), but i would like people to be nice, but firm. is there a way we talky people can find a way to request a gentle reminder that doesn’t make us feel badly about our tendency to talk too much????


my wife tells me this all the time…. Thats why I love my computer & face Book.. LOL.. no one to complain to me….

Posted by webjunkie on Dec 14, 2013 at 12:53am

Before I was put on medication I was over talking, butting in on conversations - I was a a*****e in my opinion - ADD is a reason - not an excuse for having a big mouth. Medication has totally changed me for the better. There is no reason to suffer with yourself or your mouth. If you have ADD and it is giving you or your family & friends trouble - see help. I even got over my social media addiction. Get real and get help. You will thank yourself in the end.

Posted by TM on Dec 14, 2013 at 1:39am

Nope. Not at all.

Posted by ADDedValue62 on Dec 14, 2013 at 2:04am

Yes I have been told that I talk to much.
The truth is that I do talk to much.

I look at it as my problem, and I should be sensitive to when I am talking to much.

But if you do not think you are talking to much then just tell the little whiners to find some one to talk with.

Posted by Rancher John on Dec 14, 2013 at 2:09am

I never regret it when I keep my zap shut!

Posted by LakeLife on Dec 14, 2013 at 3:00am

Talking too much is what puts the “H” in my ADHD: hyperactive mouth.  It’s tough. It’s damaging. It’s important to find ways to put a lid on it sometimes. It’s hard when the thing you want to say has numerous fine details that nobody else seems to need to “get the picture” but you believe are absolutely necessary to create the full story.  I don’t know how to tackle that one. For the other times, as soon as I pick up on the body language that says I’m over my limit I actually bite my lip or “shush” myself by putting my finger on my own lips. This I only do with people who I am “good” with - who know my secret. I apologize quickly - “oops, sorry, running at the mouth - please… your turn” then I put my shushing finger there to remind me to wait my turn.

Posted by Juggler on Dec 14, 2013 at 5:41am

When I was in college, the highlight of most days was being in class where I ‘over participated’. I could not keep my mouth closed.

The low point of most days was the morning after when I would recall how I made of fool of myself over participating in class. I was always so embarrassed. Yet I would do the same thing all over again (and again)

Posted by SquarePeg on Dec 14, 2013 at 6:01am

There’s certain people that I talk to that before the conversation goes anywhere, I will tell them, “you know, can you tell me if I’m talking too much, ‘cause Sometimes I do that.”  Do it with a smile and most people will joke with you about, it makes it easier for them to put a stop to any unnecessary conversation, and you don’t have to remember to think about it while in the middle of a conversation.

At work, I’ve just learned to keep my mouth shut unless it’s about work or someone starts talking to me. If you don’t talk at all at work then they stop saying you talk too much and start saying you don’t talk enough - not talking enough is almost worse because that makes you that weird, quiet, unapproachable person that then everyone else starts talking about too much behind your back.  It’s a tough balance.  Talking is a social convention that is tough for a lot of add’ers.

Good luck in finding your balance.

Posted by ADDLife on Dec 14, 2013 at 9:40am

Yeah Always, And My big mouth always brings problems for me Just few days ago I lost a website contract only because during finalizing the deal I spoke more than required which made my client suspicious about my intentions ... I was trying to be honest but it turned out to be a total disaster

Posted by Burraak on Dec 14, 2013 at 5:26pm

sometimes i can tell , if i know the person well, i pick up on their signals, if i don’t know the person well, it’s hard to pick up on their signals.

Posted by Lilapsophile on Dec 18, 2013 at 1:01am

i do have help, meds and i read social skills books. it usually happens around people i know, bc i don’t talk too much to people i don’t know, bc i’ve had some very unhappy incidents with ppl being rude about my speech problem.

Posted by Lilapsophile on Dec 18, 2013 at 1:03am

My best friend will tell me but she knows I have ADHD.  Other people will tell me sometimes, in a roundabout way.  I apologize if the person is someone I’m around periodically and say, “Sorry - motormouth!”  I had to be told by a friend in choir to not talk because the mics were on and we were being recorded.  She was nice about it.  I’ve since warned the people who I sit near to tell me if I’m talking when I shouldn’t be.  People understand motormouth.  They do not understand or always accept ADHD.

See?  I even talked too much in the previous paragraph!

Posted by Missed That on Dec 18, 2013 at 11:15pm

Missed That, I have that issue too, I ” talk” too much in paragraphs , too. I have the motormouth issue bigtime, the meds help, though, I’m able to pay attention enough to pick up on cues and regulate myself.

Posted by Lilapsophile on Jan 05, 2014 at 5:13am

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