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Parents of ADHD Teens and Young Adults

help for 20 year old grandson

our 20 yr old grandson lives with us-he has graduated from high school and now has a wonderful job with great potential-when he came to us 2 years ago we had him properly diagnosed he takes 60 mg vyvance for adhd and 25 mg zolof for ocd
i need to teach him to live on his own-he is undisciplined -unorganized and depends on others for just about everything-i honestly don’t know where to start to help him learn skills to function-the articles from ADDitude have helped me to understand a lot of the things he does-but i need to start from the ground up to help him.


I’m not sure why your grandson came to live with you…. But it sounds to me like he is very lucky that he did!!  You have done more for him than you will let yourself see.  Yes, there is much more to be done, but allow yourself to celebrate the successes and not only focus on the struggles that are still very much a part of daily life.
You don’t mention whether or not he is open to help or if he is bothered by the issues that he struggles with.  If he is open to working with a coach or mentor that can be extremely helpful for individuals with ADHD.  If he is not open to getting help himself, I work with many parents of children / teens who require guidance in teaching their kids some strategies but will not go for help themselves.  Keep reading and speaking to professionals, the knowledge you are picking up is helping you to help him.
I would be happy to speak to you to further discuss some strategies you can use to help your grandson. 
Keep up the great work you are doing with him, your love and support will also go a long way in helping him have more confidence in himself.
I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
Carrie Silverberg,  BA (Psyc), RECE
ADHD Consultant and Coach
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Posted by on Aug 30, 2014 at 7:08pm

You’ve already taken the first step, find help and treatment ( If he is not currently seeing a counselor or therapist (, I highly recommend it. They can give him life-strategies in light of his ADHD.

Next, routine and structure are very important ( Help him set up a structure for each day and routines for as many tasks as possible. Reminder notes are very helpful.

Help him manage daily life-skills at first—like a job search, managing his money, paying bills, etc—but he should do the hands-on work and you should only facilitate until he learns the skills and forms habits.

ADDconnect Moderator, Author & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Sep 02, 2014 at 2:56pm

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