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Depression and ADHD

i get depressed so easily

I’m 16 years old with a girlfriend. I’m overly sensitive to. I tend to enter these depression periods often. It gets pretty bad. I start contemplating ways to hurt myself. Although I never go through with any of it. It’s just I go into so easily and I really wish I wouldn’t. I don’t know what to do


I can totally relate to you!  I’m on an antidepressant and it helps but I still have episodes of depression.  My daughter is 16 and she gets to feeling the same way too at times.  Being a teenager today is much harder than it was when I was your age.  Do you have a close friend or family member to talk to when you get down?

Posted by jro1225 on May 18, 2014 at 1:50am

I usually always go to my mom. I tell pretty much everything to my girlfriend. I was going to a therapist because it got hard telling my mom what i wanted to do to myself. I haven’t been going lately. I feel like I get better then i get depressed again. It’s an endless nightmare. It’s getting hard dealing with the constant emotional pain i feel inside. Like a stake being driven through my chest over and over again.

Posted by ernie123 on May 18, 2014 at 3:20am

Please don’t ever do anything to hurt yourself.  Periods of depression are hard to deal with but things do get better.  My dad told me that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary situation.  I will be praying for you.  During those times you feel down—get out and get some fresh air, get some excercise or listen to your favorite music.  Pray and tell God you need help!!  Even talk to someone who understands how you feel on this website!  I’m here for you!  You have so many good things in your life.  Make a list of those things and review the list during those really hard times.  You are young and you have the best years of your life yet to come!  Don’t give up!

Posted by jro1225 on May 18, 2014 at 4:02am

Thank you so much. It’s strange getting this from a stranger. But it still feels really good. I’m so glad I joined this. It had occurred to me a while back but I barely joined today. It’s funny the best advice is always the most obvious but people lose sight of it because of these negative emotions. Thank you for putting it in perspective. You helped alot

Posted by ernie123 on May 18, 2014 at 5:37am

I’m glad I was able to help!  You will make it through the rough times.  Take care!  Julie

Posted by jro1225 on May 18, 2014 at 7:39am

Hey jro1225, I agree with all your comments, especially the one “suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary situation”.

Posted by John Keller on May 19, 2014 at 9:54am

Hi Ernie123!

As a mom myself, I can say that your mom would rather know about the thoughts of hurting yourself and have the opportunity to help you. It will hurt, but she would want to know and help.

You said you stop therapy when you begin to feel better then slide back into depression. Stick with therapy, even when you are doing well—it can keep you at that good level of functioning. Your therapist can also help you learn strategies to implement when you are feeling down.

We are all rooting for you!

ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on May 19, 2014 at 5:58pm

Hey Ernie123,

I can strongly relate to how you feel, I am 23 years old now, but I can remember being 16 very well. Like you I remember recognizing that I was perhaps being oversensitive, but that didn’t make the pain of feeling depressed any better. When I think about my past Its similar to how you described it with having ups and then the deep emotional downs. Where it is like having a black hole of sadness in your chest and it makes it hard to focus on anything else but your own misery/jealousy/ feelings of inadequacy ( this is how my downs feel.)

The best advice I can give to you is do not let it build up inside make sure you have outlets you can vent to like your mom and therapist. Your girlfriend can be good to vent to OCCASIONALLY but don’t overwhelm her you both have a lot going on at 16, try to keep things positive. When I was younger talking about and helping my girlfriends with her problems instead of mine helped me feel good and therefore I was less depressed and we became closer.

Also make sure you have close, trustworthy, honest guy friends you can turn too in case things don’t work out with your girl and it feels like the end of the world (trust me I know the feeling).

Find coping techniques that work specifically for you that allow you to take that sad energy that comes with depression and turn it into fuel to follow your dreams and goals. I know its hard but trust me it can be done. If you work harder at it today as a teen, you’ll be a more mature 20’s something tomorrow and deal with adversity much more efficiently. Some close friends express their own pain through art and creativity which in turn generates beautiful, awe-inspiring works!

Just remember there is hope for you to be happy again, you just have to do the hard work and find what works for you. Without these bitter sad times our happiest moments wouldn’t feel so rich.

Posted by Spazecowboy498 on May 29, 2014 at 12:35pm

God bless you all for willing to help and support Ernie, I have felt the same way, not only about the depression but about not knowing I had ADHD until I was an adult.  I am rediscovering myself and realizing that I am not a “weirdo” but rather I am a person with a disorder that many other human being struggle with as well.

God bless this website! It truly saves lives, mine included!!

Posted by Alysha on Jun 16, 2014 at 12:23pm

My daughter took an overdose a few months ago at age 14. I can guarantee you that your mother would rather know that you are having thoughts about hurting yourself. Don’t ever feel like you are telling your parents too much. We usually would like to hear more than what you are giving us.

Also, please promise me that if you are ever seriously considering hurting yourself (whether self harm or suicide), tell someone right away, even if you have to wake them up! I can tell you from experience that parents would rather spend the night talking with their child than having to take them to the emergency room (or worse).

Posted by Jeri-Texas on Aug 08, 2014 at 2:53pm

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