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Parents of ADHD Children

major behavior challenge

my 4yr old son was diagnosed with adhd,he is on focalin 10 mg wich does help him a lot. however he has been hitting his classmates .i have tried both rewarding good behavior and removing privileges. nothing seems to work.  im soooo frustrated and emotionally drained.
does anyone have any advise ?


my son was diagnosed with add he has immpulsive issues .i feel the same stressed out so what i did was put him on 1200 mill of omega 3 fish oil with dha and ara plus a multivitamin and its called attention( its a liquid all natural herb that were trying started that ( the attention ) and today was the best day at school hes had in a while so were hoping its working .. also therapy .we chose not to do medicine .every kid is differnt check his diet ,iv been trying all natural products no artificail ingredients .. and some glutin free make sure he s not getting allot of sugar ... more frut and veg .just a suggestion .iv had it too ..good luke i feel your pain

Posted by funny girl on Mar 27, 2014 at 5:27am

Thanks for the advise guys.  I also have the same issue with my 6 year old son.  Everyday, I get messages in his message book saying that he hits other kids.  I was starting to think he is just a bully and he needs to be sent to maybe boys town.  The strange thing is that he doesn’t behave this way at home….

Posted by highly stressed on Mar 27, 2014 at 10:25am

It’s at least partly due to low frustration tolerance, common with ADHD. My son had the same problem in 2nd grade. Every single time he felt someone wronged him or one of his classmates, or just broke the rules, he punched them. It happened a few times a week!

What I did was discuss each occurrence with him and guide him to think about more appropriate reactions. First, I’d ask him why hit punched that person. Then, I’d ask him if it was an appropriate way to show his anger. After that, I’d ask him to tell me some more appropriate ways to show someone he’s angry. This step is important, because you are teaching them to think through their actions.

It took 6-8 months, but it worked to stop this behavior. Almost four years later, he hasn’t punched anyone at school since.

ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Mar 27, 2014 at 4:37pm

thanks for taking the time to respond to me.  it is so frustrating…

Posted by mayte on Mar 28, 2014 at 2:49am

Im going thru the same issue. My 8 yr old son w/ ADHD for the past month has been hitting teachers and classmates when he feels that they are mean to him or when the teacher gives him orders. Its to the point where EMS and POLICE have been called on him. We ended up at the psych ER. and they only send him home because he seems to calm down when we leave the school. He does have a psychiatrist and he is sure that it is ADHA and not psychological like the school presumes! He just started concerta 36 mg today. I hope it works soon because im going to lose my job! Any advice???

Posted by Aisha lee on Mar 29, 2014 at 5:13pm

I had the same thing with my then 7-yr-old son! He was hitting teachers and other kids. He’d have a full-on meltdown when he felt wronged and they’d carry him kicking and screaming to the office. He’d calm down after a bit. It was awful. He was eventually asked to leave the (private) school. I was relieved bc it obviously was not a good situation for him to be in. I have been homeschooling him ever since (it has been one full year now). It’s the best thing I’ve done. He was not diagnosed at the time nor on medication as he is now. I just can’t deal with the schools and their pressure cooker environment and the negativity. Homeschooling is much better. Too bad there aren’t schools that address the needs of our ADHD kids!

Posted by StephanieMommy on Mar 30, 2014 at 7:56am

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