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Parents of ADHD Teens and Young Adults

medication on non-school days

Help!  13 year old, a bit angry, acting out, defiant, loud, aggressive, bullying, is only getting meds on school days.  His mom and I are not in agreement: I think if it helps his brain chemistry and the family envioronment (which it clearly does) then he should take it on weekends as well.  She thinks the meds make his affect a bit flat.


Oh gosh can I relate to both sides of that discussion!!!  For our son of 14, he takes medication everyday.  Even though his affect is less bubbly, frankly I’m more inclined to want to be around him so in the end, we’ve all spent more enjoyable time together.  Also I’d ask his dr. about the affect change- depending on what he’s on, maybe he can take less over the weekend, and there will be more of a middle ground?
Best of luck.

Posted by Ilana on Dec 29, 2013 at 6:02am

I was SO worried about the same thing! I wanted to give my 7 year old a break from his “vitamins” on non school days. His affect is also much less “bubbly” but our relationship is so much better when I am not the helicopter parent who is constantly asking him to “check himself”.

Posted by MOM2N8 on Dec 29, 2013 at 8:20am


See if you can get your wife to make an attempt to see if it’ll help him thru out the week. A trial period, say, for a month and see how your son does.

Posted by sammi1966 on Dec 27, 2013 at 9:14pm


Take this from my experience with my 14 year old son

My son takes his meds on school days and on the

Weekends too. His needs are everyday. They dont take

a break because it is not a school day.

Try putting it like this to your wife,  if your child had a

heart condition would you only give medication on the

weekdays?  An illness needs to be treated daily.

The family benefits as well as the child.

Posted by patty13 on Dec 28, 2013 at 1:05am

Posted by adhdmomma on Dec 30, 2013 at 7:35pm

13 is a hard age, regardless of ADHD.  For our son we have the same issues - he is not as “funny” and lively on meds, but as we have played with dosages and he has grown it has gotten better.  He does not take medication on the weekends with consistency.

As our psychologist explained it to us years ago, it is like putting glasses on a child who cannot see the board—every day would be a better consistency, but it also depends on the drug.  If you are on something like RItalin, which dies not stay in the system or build up, then the difference is dramatic.  If you are on Adderall or Vyvanse or something that builds then I would definitely consult your MD.

Posted by uvatech on Jan 04, 2014 at 3:33am

When our d was 14, we took her off medications for spring break, during that week she ended up on a forced ER visit because of crazy behaviors that involved us calling the police and the police calling an ambulance to take her to the ER, against our wishes. We saw the Psych the next day and he said that kids with impulsivity should take meds every day, year round. He said that the inattention type can get away with taking it only on school days but the impulsive types need their chemistry regulated all of the time. Now my d is 17 and cognitive maturity has kicked in. Off meds she doesn’t do crazy stuff but she is not fun to be around AT ALL!

Posted by MariaEC on Jan 16, 2014 at 9:48pm

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