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Parents of ADHD Preteens

overdramatized hyperactivitie

Any suggestions on helping my 12yr old girl in the evenings to try to focus on something for longer than 2to 5minutes and to be able to do it without me?
We do the trampoline we try to read we draw we go for bike rides but all she does is shout out the whole time , slow down no speed up ect then I’m done mom ! We got guinea pigs for helping with responsibility but it’s short lived playing with them. She does her chores with the speed of lightning. Dinner is faster. Tryed swimming at gym and she is just right up on me the whole time. Just so frustrated that I just don’t know what to do.


I know just how you feel!
In order to be helpful to you, could you give a bit more detail about your daughter?
Does she attend school or is she homeschooled? Is she currently taking meds - stimulants, non-stimulants?
You describe her as hyperactive; does she have anger issues too? Trouble making friends?

Posted by heathermb on Aug 28, 2014 at 2:28am

Hi gebs!

What happens if you don’t try to keep her entertained in the evenings? My son does much better with just having time to himself in the evenings.

If she takes medication, a booster dose in the afternoon/early evening could be very helpful. Many people implement this strategy for success with afternoon and evening activities (like sports practice, homework, etc).

Occupational therapy helps my son with his hyperactivity (and it’s become a tiny bit better as he’s gotten older).

ADDconnect Moderator, Author & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Aug 28, 2014 at 1:08pm

Thanks for replays. To answer questions,
She is I. Concerta, Zoloft,abilify,and buspar. She sees a
Psychiatrist and goes to school.She has an IEP. She is doing ok this first week of school but I have to talk with her everyday to lift her self esteem about the few at school that make fun of her about her reactions to things . Those being she sometimes can’t help doing before thinking . Being an over excited response . She also has a hard time maintaining friendship because she is so younger acting and girls her age are able to sit back and juust observe by now. We practice holding out a few more minutes on activities but it just seems that everything overstimulates her. Crowds, and if she knows somethings coming up that’s all she tallks about. She lacks right now the ability to know she can be obsessive.Meaning she will look up information ,ask repeatedly the same things and until she is convinced She just can’t stop.example we got 2.guinea pigs,well even though the pet store said they were boys she was convinced they were girls. I even retook them back with her to have them examine.still she was convinced . She is still just on a 12 most days at night. If I’m not in her sights to watch her or to talk to her or to play with her she gets very blue. I’m going to put her In Gymnastics but fear she will get bored. She’s beggiing for gymnastics. I have convinced her to participate in recess sport at lunch with other kids and do her best because she needs to try new things and try to be apart of the activities. I hope she just has fun. She will start bowling one day a week after school so I hope that will give her more confidence . All I do is remain patient and try to talk to her that together we will keep working on her good qualitys but I’m just tired every evening and so overstimulated myself because I absorb all the hyper. She absolutely hates periods of time alone. Thanks

Posted by gebs on Aug 29, 2014 at 12:24pm

No anger issues just hard time making friends because not many understand .

Posted by gebs on Aug 29, 2014 at 12:25pm

I have a 11 year old grand daughter.She has been on Concerta now for 2 years and it has turned her into someone I dont no.My son and his girlfriend were taking care of her but because she was outraged with his girlfriend and tried to break them up I told my son I would care for her here,and he can pick her up.But she is always depressed,angryI cant make her do anything,She just yells.Her Dr wont change meds.So what now?

Posted by gammy3 on Sep 15, 2014 at 4:18pm

If her doctor won’t listen to your concerns @grammy3, it’s time to find a new doctor. You need someone who will work with you, not prescribe from their ivory tower. There are many other medications to try for ADHD.

By the way, if she is aggressive and moody, it could be that the dose is too high. And, if she’s been on Concerta a long time and it used to work better, it could be that the generic doesn’t work well for her. It’s a documented case that the generic doesn’t work as well for many, my son included.

ADDconnect Moderator, Author on ADHD, and Mom to Pre-Teen Boy w/ ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Sep 16, 2014 at 12:49pm

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