Couples With One ADHD Partner
taking the easy way out....or acceptance?
For myself growing up with add was difficult at times and I never really considered what I could and couldn’t do. Teachers would always say, “If only he tried /harder,” ” It is as if he doesn’t care” “If he only applied himself like the other students.” As a Child not knowing I had ADD, my response was always that I did try hard, the more I tried the worse it appeared to get for example showing up at class with a pencil, taking notes, bringing the right books to class.
Eventualy I just accepted that I am going to forget my pencils. So I would get a stack of them and give them to a student closest as a way of…coping.
As an adult in a relationship, being the one with ADD. There is the matter of financial bills and paying them on time. Credit Cards, phone bills, hydro, groceries. Well To be honest I more than often fall shy of carrying the family 50/50.
I am at the point where I give up trying to be responsible, by keeping only enough for myself to get by for the next two weeks, and (keyword) automatic transfer most of the amount to my wife. Who is wonderful at looking after these things.
Am I taking the easy way out? Or just accepting the fact that I am not good at these sort of tasks, and finding a way to “cope” with it.
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